Current Times

Tension. That to me describes the current state of affairs. Our beautiful land is filled with anxiety, depression, fear, hate, and feelings of loss of control. Our lives are filled with uncertainty. People who we thought were are friends, some of our family, our leaders have shown what we believe is an ugly and unreal side. It could seem hopeless.

Perspective and pause give us a chance to put all into context. Fear drives all. Those who wish to control us, stir the fear. The only way to conquer fear is to confront it head on. Not by confrontation necessarily, but from an educated point of view. From historical comparison and by taking a look deep inside at ourselves and asking if what is being said truly matches our heart.

Observation is a powerful tool. Sympathy and empathy can assist us to work to understand another persons fears. Prayer for all including for discernment is critical.

I love our country, my life and all of my blessings God has bestowed on me. My life is far from perfect. I create my own conflict and trials. No one else does. I am responsible for my actions good and bad. Personal responsibility lies on us alone.

When others are acting out in ways we do not approve, the best way to foster change is not by debate, argument or direct confrontation, but by our actions. Actions seen and unseen. Actions of restraint. Actions of love and compassion.

It is not about winning the debate. It is about positive influence. When we are gone, people will remember the life we led quietly more that the victories won at any expense.

Today, more than ever, we need to live our influence. Live constructive not destructive. Live love not hate. We are given the gift to disagree, but no where is it written we have should live a life of hate.

#orangeistruth

We are all Americans

Thanksgiving: A Pathway out of Insanity

Thanksgiving. An American tradition. Massive meals, prequel to ridiculous shopping, hectic travel and the darkness of isolation. What? Yes, isolation. Busyness, the true escape from reality. We surround ourselves with people, work feverishly to clean, cook, make small talk, shop, fight crowds and in the end can be exhausted physically and emotionally. Sound like insanity repeated year after year.

A different perspective? A pathway out. The name of the holiday is the definition of the way out of darkness and insanity. Thanksgiving, gratitude, giving, reflecting on the infinite blessings poured on us. I know if I reflect, I could write a gratitude list a mile long. A sample would be, the color orange, sunrise, sunset, clothing, food, shelter, faith, forgiveness, sobriety, the gym, kids, new friends and on and on.

Instead of living in the cycles that pull us into our darkness, focus daily on the blessings. Write them down. Savor the moment. Thank our Creator for your calling and gifts. It can be liberating.

#orangeistruth

Whose your hero?

Mother’s Day! A day that really does not due justice for mom’s. It is a day laden with commercialism, obligation and at times remorse. It is the scapegoat for 364 days of the forgotten hero’s mom’s are. You see, while we hold up in the limelight the hero’s of history, and rightfully so, we forget about what true heroism is and how our mothers are truly hero’s everyday. Being a hero is all about courage and facing the onslaught of fear that grips us from the moment we get up in the morning, to the last blink before we fall asleep. And, even in our dreams fear can grip us.

So as far as the definition of a hero goes, my choice is a mom, my mom, Corice Jasper. Mom’s are the queens of worry. My mom has been mom to so many! Obviously to me and Amy Jasper. Even though we get irritated at her line of questioning, concern and worry, we are blessed to have such a pray warrior and hero in our corner.

Also, mom was mom to dad. Making sure he was fed, being a pillar of support both in life and in faith, taking care of him in good and in bad, in great health and in his last days. Setting aside her own fears to heroically be strong.

Mom is mom to her grandchildren, Taylor Jasper and Kylie Jasper. From their births, through colic, sickness, joys and heartache, mom set aside her own needs to mother these precious gifts. Mom is the listing ear, the gentle scolding and the unconditional love that her grandchildren need. A safe haven. She has had to set aside her fears about their futures to be support today. At a beckoned call.

Mom is mom to her brothers, Paul Kranz and Curt Kranz. Guiding and leading. Caring and offering tough love. But, no matter what, loyal to the end.

Mom was mom to her parents and dad’s parents. Giving sacrificially to their care and service. Driving hours monthly, nursing them in their twilight years with unsurpassed love. Sacrificing her own desires for the sake of their needs.

Mom has been mom to her nieces and nephews. Even when she has not had contact with them, she cares about their well being, their health, their joy and sorrow. Stephen Kranz Paula Broadwell MikeandLori Kranz Clark Kranz Chuck Kranz Scott Sternberg Stephen Beckström-Sternberg Lisa Mullin Annette Sternberg Benavides

Mom has been mom to many, many of her close friends. Giving them their shots, listening to their grief, sadness, joy and fears. She has been a regular visitor of those friends shut in, bring meals and loading her car trunk with their junk!

My mom is a fiercely independent woman. While none of us are saints, she, in her imperfect perfection, has lived a giving life for us all. Thank you mom.

#jayjasper

#orangeistruth

Choices

Choices 

Judge people by where they came from

… Judge people by where they’re going

Choices come with responsibility

… People can’t be trusted to make good choices

Dominate

… Affiliate

Redemption is possible

… Past actions define the future

People with authority should be held accountable

… People with authority should do what they want

It’s most efficient to slot people into tracks early

… There’s potential in everyone

Because I said so

… Let’s figure it out

Talent is inborn

… Skill is earned

Investing in culture change pays off

… People are separate from the culture

Push people away

… Pull people closer

Conserve it for later

… Use it all

Wait to get picked

… Pick yourself

It takes a village

… You can do it by yourself

Look forward

… Look back

Consume

… Create

Possibility

… Safety

Lead

… Follow

Open doors for others

… Take what you can

As long as it’s not against the law it’s fine

… Do what’s right

Politics

… Governance

Later

… Now

#orangeistruth

#sethgodin

The razors edge difference.

What defines the difference between self doubt and invincible greatness? It is that one person who sees us as we are and believes in us. The simple phrase ” I believe in you” can be the game changer.

Let someone know that you believe in them. They need to know.

#orangesitruth

The Where The Who and the When

Being positive and believing anything we set our mind to can happen is a great ideal to have. We speak our affirmations, we write them down, we look ourselves in the mirror and say the “I am’s”, all is well and good. But where do we turn when self doubt creeps in and fear silently overcomes us? Who do we trust to share our vulnerabilities with? So many say they are our confidante’s, but who they are? And when is that time to step out of our comfort zone and ask for a listening ear, for the wisdom of others, to share of fears of failure, inadequacy and vulnerability?

A true Zig Ziglar quote ” One of the hardest decisions you’ll ever face in life is choosing whether to walk away or try harder”.

Trust is not easy. Confiding in others can cause their own fears to rise up and in stead of listening, sub-conscience judgement may lash out. Those we assume we should be able to confide in may not have the ability to counsel or just listen and support.

Timing is everything. Whether you lead a team, or a company or church or whatever it might be, others look to you as a pillar, maybe as a person that should not have moments of doubt. Or, worse, that is what our fears tell us.

I have my moments of self doubt. It is a danger to isolate. Don’t be an island, be human and find the outlet you need; it might even take some trial and error. Learning at its best.

“I don’t believe anyone ever suspects how completely unsure I am of my work and myself and what tortures of self-doubting the doubt of others has always given me.” 
 Tennessee Williams

#orangeistruth

Strength

People talk abut how strong they are or how strong others are, but what does that really mean? Is it the strength to fight against injustice or to stand for a belief? Is it the strength to endure pain or suffering or loss? Is it the strength to triumph in a quest or competition? All are a variety of strengths but all are driven by fears known and unknown.

True strength is deeply rooted in an unwavering faith in ourselves, granted to us by God to succeed in the calling or internal directive that aligns with our purpose. Our purpose will be different for each of us individually. Our purpose can appear in many disguises like business, relationships, health, heartache, faith; the list is endless. Observe what your purpose is not only in the long run, but also in the smallest of daily events.

#orangeistruth

#jayjasper

Trust

I marvel at those who appear to have an abundance of friends. As I get older, key relationships and friendships become wholly dependent on trust.

To find those we can trust on an intimate level takes as much trust in ourselves as it does trust in others. First impressions can tell us as much about a person as would 100 questions.

Therein lies the need to trust ourselves.

#orangeistruth