What is the road paved with?

The answer might seem to be good intentions. Not a great or durable driving surface for a car or life. Good intentions can be misinterpreted. Good intentions can lead to disappointment. Good intentions are the stuff over promise and under deliver is made from. Good intentions are words not actions.

What is a better pavement? Actions. Live your road with actions. Which are intentions fulfilled.

Food for thought. Over scheduled, wanting something for others that they don’t want with the same conviction, is really nothing more that good intentions with a false premise.

Think before you intend. It will save a ton of wasted energy.

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The Orange Minute: Truth in Real Estate episode 6

Today, going deep instead of wide is the key to successful marketing. We micro-market to the smallest, most likely pool of buyer candidates to achieve the highest possible sales price in the appropriate amount of time.

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Episode 6

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Checking out is more than a plane ticket

There a so much talk about work/life balance. The thought is that it is vital to higher productivity, mental and physical health and strengthening of relationships sounds great!

I have avoided detaching from business, routine life and relaxation most of my life. There were always excuses; the big project or deal will fall apart, clients will go so,where else, I will miss opportunity…. but this was a false narrative that I learned innocently from my father. He “selflessly” worked non-stop; when very young, trips to my mom’s parents, when I as older, trips with my mom to Europe. It does matter what the reason, true or not, he was a working martyr .

So, as we all learn from the behavior of those of influence around us, I too, have lived as a working martyr. I may have gone on more “vacations”, played more golf rounds, but the sword of the work battle was always by my side.

Why?

Fear and lack of trust. Fear that all will fail, fear that I was not deserving, fear of what others might think. And lack of trust? Not trusting those around me to take care of things, fear that all would be free track upon my return, fear.

Today, I sit by the ocean. Disconnected (more than usual) from the routine. Life is going on. I have learned to trust my teammates, trust my clients and acknowledge that it is okay to disconnect. Will there be a challenge or two to take care of when I return? Of course. But no scorched earth.

The ego driven fear and lack of trust that holds us in our cycles of life is far more destructive then the small hiccups from disconnecting.

I am happy I have. It still a long road, but as time goes by, the road is getting shorted. Now is the time to take a detour or two ant breath.

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Reminders

If your habit is to clear your throat, apologize a few times, minimize the quality of the work you’re about to share and in general, apologize for the assertions you’re about to make…

you probably realize that this is not an effective way to give a talk, lead a class or have a strategic discussion.

Consider carrying a coin in your pocket, one that’s large, or in a foreign currency.

Every time you feel like you need to minimize your contribution, simply stop and turn the coin over. You can count that as your obligation fulfilled.

And then you can get back to work.

[This isn’t simply an analogy. It actually works.]

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The razors edge difference.

What defines the difference between self doubt and invincible greatness? It is that one person who sees us as we are and believes in us. The simple phrase ” I believe in you” can be the game changer.

Let someone know that you believe in them. They need to know.

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Trust

I marvel at those who appear to have an abundance of friends. As I get older, key relationships and friendships become wholly dependent on trust.

To find those we can trust on an intimate level takes as much trust in ourselves as it does trust in others. First impressions can tell us as much about a person as would 100 questions.

Therein lies the need to trust ourselves.

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